Living in a picture perfect world

Hello lovely followers! <3


- You can put a picture in a golden frame but in the end it will be the same -

Did I promised you to blog more often? I think I did...

I haven't found much time to blog about something or to get some new ideas for my blog.

I want to change this, I want to have a nice blog and I don't want to disappoint my dear followers!

In this post I want to talk about beauty (and fashion) and how this affect our daily lives.

Why do I want to talk about this? Beauty and fashion isn't that important, it's about what's inside?!
Of course, that's right! At least that's what I think.
Still I think it's something that's really important in the world of young people these days.

Because the industry of fashion and beauty is everywhere, in shops, in the media, on the internet even at your school ect.

In the post the perfect fake lolita I wrote about how I don't like lolitas being too 'fake'. I wrote this post some months ago and it's one of my most popular posts on my blog.

After some months my view on lolitas who look too fake changed, I started to like it somehow.

I don't think dressing yourself like that, is a form of hiding your true self, because if you look around in the big and scary normal world there are people who do exactly the same thing. 

How can I compare this to each other?

Lolita and the way other people dress theirselves is a completly different thing, isn't it? Of course it is!

But there are some simularities, more young people start to use more fake items and that's not something that happend from one year to another, it's a slow process.

For example: a few years ago here in Holland only a few people used fake lashes, now there are many girls who use them. * I notice that because I use them myself sometimes, I have such a small eyelashes, even mascara power blablabla won't work!*

 First it was only a beauty accessoires  for carnaval and parties.

 The same as extensions or fake hair, which is more popular right now.
So I think you can definitely compare this to each other!

I don't think this is a problem, I'm not going to say I don't like people with fake lashes, fake hair, ect. that would be so childish.


To show all of you a personal example:
The first picture is with Photoshop, the other one without Photoshop:

I like to see people who care about their apperance but I hate it when some of them think everyone else have to look PERFECT including his/herself. (mostly herself xD)

That's the real problem and I think it's mostly because of the media, advertisement,popstars/models and the internet and I'm not saying these things or persons are bad. That's ridiculous! But their influence on people and especially young people is big even bigger than you can imagine... unfortunately...

Let me show you something, please watch this short movie. (it's only one minute!)

Credits to dove!

Quite shocking isn't it? 

They are not using much make-up but also photoshop and not a little bit.

I wouldn't recoignize this model if I saw her irl..

I'm not saying this is happing all the time, but I'm sure this happens a lot.

I think this gives many people a unrealistic view on beauty.

And it makes me kind of sad, it's more like you have to be like that otherwise you are 'nothing'.

Only how can you look like an ideal 'person' if your ideal image isn't real?

I know not everyone thinks like that, only this give me this sort of feeling..

So why do I worry about this? 

I'm not really worrying about this, it's just I don't like this unrealistic view on beauty.

Why do we need Photoshop to look pretty? 

Why do more people consider to do plastic surgery? 

This won't make any of us more beautiful, because nobody can ever reach this 'fake' beauty unless you want to walk with a computer screen in front of you! XD

I have always looked a little bit different than mainstream people, I'm definitely not a wallflower if you talk about clothes.

I some years ago I wore Gothic clothes and now I wear Lolita.

These days I got the feeling more young people, especially girls, have totally no respect for people who are wearing an other style of clothing. 

Again it's more like you have to be like the ideal image...

For me the way I look is very important, you can see how I feel if you look at the way I dress and the make-up I wear.

Only I totally don't get it why some people want to look perfect more than anything because looking perfect isn't possible. 

We are just human beings...

I think this is weird, only it's even more weird that some people think other people have to look the way they want. 

Blegh, I don't like those people! >.<

I don't think beauty is all about the outside, it's also about the inside. I don't care who you are, what you look like, where you from as long as you are nice to me, it's okay, I will be nice to you. ^_~

For me beauty is also about being individual, being yourself and feeling comfortable about that. 

For me, Lolita fashion makes this more easier..

I'm I the only one who thinks the same about this? 

Or do you have another opinion?? 

I would like to hear this! 

*Note: Lolita fashion is an example that using fake items and Photoshop becomes more normal these days. I don't mean with this that Photoshop and fake items are bad! 

** This post is about my opinion, please don't feel yourself offended!

*** Photos: Paul van loon